I’ll Go First…
Sometimes, telling your story is hard. It contains secrets that can expose the ugly side of you… the ones you keep hidden because they contain bad decisions, regrets, and even murder. Telling your story can mean “ugly cry” moments, fear, shame, embarrassment, guilt, anger, and the list goes on, but you need to tell your story. Why? Because secrets kill.
Secrets are the land mines of our lives. They change the filters through which we live and rarely stay small. They grow and let fear, doubt, guilt, and self-loathing seep into our lives. They are inevitable sources of destruction to us and others. So, we must choose a different way. One called honesty.
Honesty strips a secret of its explosive power. It doesn’t remove the pain. It doesn’t downplay the wrong-doing or make it right, but it allows us to heal. It allows us to expose lies and to effect change. When a secret is still hidden, everyday living becomes more difficult. Fear, guilt, and shame become constant companions. Thankfully, we can gain the wisdom and show the courage to live honestly, and when we do, secrets lose their power! Honesty is found when wisdom meets courage. Wisdom and courage are necessary so we can discern that the hard choice today, can lead to a better life tomorrow, and because telling the truth is not always easy.
In 1973, the Supreme Court recognized a woman’s constitutional right to an abortion. Since then, over 33% of American women have experienced an abortion by the age of 45. Many of these women now have a secret. You might be one of these women, or maybe it’s your friend, sister, coworker, or the woman sitting next to you in church. Regardless, post-abortive women are in pain, but you may never know it. Many hide their secret because they are filled with shame, grief, and guilt and are afraid of judgment and condemnation.
However, the “myth” that abortion is “good” for a woman can be dispelled by the voices of those who have endured an abortion choice. The very act promised to produce relief, often produces its own special brand of agony and a deep, disturbing sense of unrest and regret that begets Post-Abortion Syndrome.
Sharing the secret of an abortion is perhaps the most powerful tool in stopping abortion from devastating lives. Currently, theirs is still a small voice in this battle, but the potential for victory in this fight to save the unborn is overwhelming! When the post-abortive share their stories—when YOU share your story—with the abortion-minded, many reconsider and continue their pregnancy.
Here at the PRC, through the Her Choice to Heal classes, post-abortive women are given a safe, confidential place to heal. The secrets and lies can be replaced with the truth of God’s forgiveness, grace, and mercy. Being allowed to grieve, post-abortive women can find their voices, share their stories, and join the battle for life.
So, I’ll go first. I’ll tell you MY story. I will tell you that abortion hurt me and my unborn child and that it is hurting others. And maybe, just maybe, someone will hear my story and a life will be saved. Yes, I made a decision that brought death; now I’m making one to support LIFE!
Do you have a secret? Where will you go for help?
Submitted by Carla K.
St. Joseph PRC coordinates a confidential post-abortion recovery support group. Call 816-387-8090 for more information or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org